Whether you’ve known the guy for a while or
only just laid eyes on him last week, first
dates are always nerve-wracking. It’s only
natural that you end up worrying about every
little thing and you can’t help but picture the
worst case scenario. First dates shouldn’t be
anything to worry about however. They
should be fun, carefree and, if all goes well,
you should come away filled with butterflies
at the end of the night. The question is, how
do we banish our nerves and make the most
of what could be something very special?
Personally, I think the key to nailing any first
date is confidence. Confidence helps your
dazzling personality to shine through, it lets
your guy see who you really are and, all in all,
it stops you from spending the entire date
with knots in your stomach. Sounds good,
doesn’t it? That said, here’s four confidence
boosting tips to help you nail any first date.
only just laid eyes on him last week, first
dates are always nerve-wracking. It’s only
natural that you end up worrying about every
little thing and you can’t help but picture the
worst case scenario. First dates shouldn’t be
anything to worry about however. They
should be fun, carefree and, if all goes well,
you should come away filled with butterflies
at the end of the night. The question is, how
do we banish our nerves and make the most
of what could be something very special?
Personally, I think the key to nailing any first
date is confidence. Confidence helps your
dazzling personality to shine through, it lets
your guy see who you really are and, all in all,
it stops you from spending the entire date
with knots in your stomach. Sounds good,
doesn’t it? That said, here’s four confidence
boosting tips to help you nail any first date.
#1 Dress For You, Not Him
Dress to impress, that’s the first rule for
gaining confidence on a first date, right?
Well…sort of. Sure, it’s important that you
show up looking fabulous but at the same
time it’s even more important that you show
up looking and feeling comfortable. If you’re
not comfortable with your outfit your date will
sense it, he might even think the discomfort
your feeling is because of him. When choosing
your outfit, choose something that you know
flatters you and makes you look your best but
don’t sacrifice your comfort and therefore your
confidence for it.
Take me for example – I know I can pull of a
small dress and heels, I’d like to think I can
turn a few heads too, but to be honest I feel
ten times more confident in a pair of skinny
jeans and a fancy top. Believe it or not, that’s
exactly how I dressed for the first date with
my guy too but I must have done something
right because now we’re engaged.
Dress to impress, that’s the first rule for
gaining confidence on a first date, right?
Well…sort of. Sure, it’s important that you
show up looking fabulous but at the same
time it’s even more important that you show
up looking and feeling comfortable. If you’re
not comfortable with your outfit your date will
sense it, he might even think the discomfort
your feeling is because of him. When choosing
your outfit, choose something that you know
flatters you and makes you look your best but
don’t sacrifice your comfort and therefore your
confidence for it.
Take me for example – I know I can pull of a
small dress and heels, I’d like to think I can
turn a few heads too, but to be honest I feel
ten times more confident in a pair of skinny
jeans and a fancy top. Believe it or not, that’s
exactly how I dressed for the first date with
my guy too but I must have done something
right because now we’re engaged.
Dressing so you feel comfortable as well as
look fabulous, that mix of looking and feeling
great will help you to relax and because you’re
relaxed confidence will just ooze out of you.
look fabulous, that mix of looking and feeling
great will help you to relax and because you’re
relaxed confidence will just ooze out of you.
#2 Let Your Troubles Go
If you’re nervous and lacking confidence
before a date then it’s important you find a
way to let those troubles go. To do this, do
something for you in the hours before leave.
You could watch your favourite film, dance to
your new album or go for a swim – anything
that relaxes you really. This will put you in the
right frame of mind for your date and may
even give you something to talk about while
you’re there.
If you’re nervous and lacking confidence
before a date then it’s important you find a
way to let those troubles go. To do this, do
something for you in the hours before leave.
You could watch your favourite film, dance to
your new album or go for a swim – anything
that relaxes you really. This will put you in the
right frame of mind for your date and may
even give you something to talk about while
you’re there.
Choosing to do something physical before you
go on your date also has the added bonus of
expelling any excess energy from your body,
something that is known to exasperate nerves.
go on your date also has the added bonus of
expelling any excess energy from your body,
something that is known to exasperate nerves.
#3 Embrace Your Personality
Okay, okay, I know this tip is a bit cliché but
that doesn’t mean it’s any less important.
Okay, okay, I know this tip is a bit cliché but
that doesn’t mean it’s any less important.
Being yourself and embracing your true
personality will give you an instant confidence
boost on a first date. That means not holding
back when you laugh, sharing the fact you
have a comic book collection to rival the best
of them, opening up about your guilty
pleasures and, most of all, being proud of who
you are. Talking about your true passions with
your date, even if they are considered ‘un-
cool’, will set you at ease. Let your true self
shine through and love yourself, if your date
doesn’t like it then that’s his loss.
personality will give you an instant confidence
boost on a first date. That means not holding
back when you laugh, sharing the fact you
have a comic book collection to rival the best
of them, opening up about your guilty
pleasures and, most of all, being proud of who
you are. Talking about your true passions with
your date, even if they are considered ‘un-
cool’, will set you at ease. Let your true self
shine through and love yourself, if your date
doesn’t like it then that’s his loss.
#4 Remember, You’re Awesome
Finally, before you go on your date, remind
yourself of all the reasons you’re awesome
and why your date is lucky to be with you. It
may sound big headed but this tip is ace for
helping to boost your confidence. Remind
yourself of all your greatest achievements and
the things you love about yourself, you’ll feel
better in no time. Plus, if you feel your
confidence slipping on your date you can keep
this going in your head too.
My first date with my guy went amazingly
thanks to all these simple tricks and, just
eight months later, he put a ring on my finger.
Finally, before you go on your date, remind
yourself of all the reasons you’re awesome
and why your date is lucky to be with you. It
may sound big headed but this tip is ace for
helping to boost your confidence. Remind
yourself of all your greatest achievements and
the things you love about yourself, you’ll feel
better in no time. Plus, if you feel your
confidence slipping on your date you can keep
this going in your head too.
My first date with my guy went amazingly
thanks to all these simple tricks and, just
eight months later, he put a ring on my finger.
It’s always worth bearing in mind that any
first date could be your last, the guy you meet
could be ‘the one’, so you might as well make
the most of it. Don’t let your nerves ruin what
could potentially be something great.
first date could be your last, the guy you meet
could be ‘the one’, so you might as well make
the most of it. Don’t let your nerves ruin what
could potentially be something great.
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